Don’t Forget to Forgive

Forgiveness is one of the 10 cardinal principles of dharma that uphold the cosmic and the social order. It is the cultivation of prema, love; karuna, compassion; ahimsa, non-violence; and kshanti, forbearance; for inner purity and spiritual resilience. The Yoga-Yajnavalkya-Gita (1.64) defines it as samatva, a state of psychological stability and composure. Forgiveness stems from right understanding. It is letting go of resentment and revengeful thoughts by choosing a path that requires firmness of spirit to endure suffering. Far from being a sign of weakness, it shows maturity and grace. When one harbours grudges, it makes the mind toxic. Scientific studies show that holding on to anger upsets the rhythm of the heart and leads to an increased level of cortisol, the body’s main stress hormone. Those who have a forgiving disposition, enjoy better mental and physical health compared to others who simmer with bitterness. Seeking god’s forgiveness, and repentance for sinful acts, form the core values in Semitic religions. Buddhism and Jainism regard forgiveness as a step towards moksha, salvation. The Jaina community observes Forgiveness Day (samvatsari/kshamavani) annually, to improve individual and social relations. Forgiving is not forgetting, but accepting everything in its stride, and moving ahead. To stay calm when provoked by opponents is the real test of one’s moral strength. Forgiveness is not selftorture or a justification of the uncouth behaviour and actions of others, but of not being swayed by negative emotions.


source: Economic Times, 9/08/2019